This may sound a bit fluffy and twelve-step, I know, but I like this quote from Lisa Bonet (actress, half Jewish, half African American) who said, “Everyone has their story. Everyone has issues. You have to face your fears.”
There some sense here, but embrace your fears? How many of us have this internal mutt experience? On the outside, you’re one type of person. The world sees you one way, but inside, that’s another story. And you know what I mean.
Let’s say you grew up on Chicago’s Lake Shore Drive
and then later inherit your grandparents’ place in the swankiest zip code in New York. You’re what’s called third generation entitled.
You’re bold, brave, even brazen at times, accomplished and famous in your profession, well respected, legendary and bordering on sainthood for your philanthropic efforts, and on all the right boards. You are one big statement for the world to see. But inside, deep down, where your bottom rib nearly reaches your kidneys, you cringe and crumble at the thought of…well, you tell me. What’s your greatest fear?
Genuphobia? Fear of knees. Or gnosiophobia?
Fear of knowledge?
Or is it eleutherophobia, fear of freedom. Who knows, maybe you served a life sentence in a prison dungeon in a past life, and it grew on you.
So there you are, an effervescent elbow-rubbing professional, and you can’t shake your fear of freedom. Now that’s a mutt if I ever knew one.
No one knows about your fear. Not your manicurist, your personal assistant, even your husband or wife. No one. Not even when you suggest a little bondage, your partner doesn’t have a clue. So what do you do?
One option: build a tiny windowless cell-like room in the back of your penthouse apartment. Ah, that’s what I call a cozy nest. Tell your husband it’s your reflection, meditation, and yoga room. He doesn’t need to know that you crave small, enclosed spaces for long periods of time.
Don’t tell your children, though. They may worry about you.
I like the quote excerpt: Our worst fear is not that we are inadequate. Oour deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
This quote is often found on the Internet incorrectly credited to Nelson Mandela, however it is originally from a 1992 Marianne Williamson poem.
Thought for the day: Learn to live with your fears. Find ways, safe ones, mostly, to incorporate them into your life somehow and yes, you’ll end up embracing what you fear the most. Fear, itself. Now that’s freedom, when you learn to live with your fears.